Did you know that transgender people are twice as likely to have a college degree but three times as likely to be unemployed? Or that in some states you can still be fired for being gay?
These are the issues that are facing LGBTQ entrepreneurs, and Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn are working to change the world of business for people within this community. They’ve taken their amazing talents and funneled them into bringing LGTBQ entrepreneurs into a business niche to vibe and thrive together.
We dive into their earlier lives, Caleb’s transgender journey, their relationships with themselves and each other, the beauty of openness and gender fluidity, and finding your place in the world. Join us for some juicy goodness on Episode 35 of Ignite Intimacy, Gender Fluidity & Being True to You with LGBTQ Entrepreneurs Caleb Arring and Matthew VanHorn!
About Caleb and Matthew:
After suffering with confusion, self-loathing, and an eating disorder as a teen, Matthew overcame shame, guilt, and fear through the Celebrating Your Body Erotic workshop, and now makes a point of being naked as much as possible. Identifying as queer, he has expanded his talents for relationship coaching to include the business world.
Caleb is a queer identified transgender man who first identified as a lesbian, then transitioned in the early 2000s. Using his Masters in Business Administration, he worked in management, then as an attorney, before creating LGBTQ Entrepreneur with Matthew.
Together for 3 years, and engaged, Caleb and Matthew live and work in the San Francisco Bay area, and make partner to partner communication a priority in their relationship.
Check out their website at LGBTQentrepreneur.com
Matthew’s website: www.eroticexploration.com
They are hosting Be Fabulous, Get Clients - a three day transformational summit for LGBTQentrepreneurs in September 2017 and they're giving away scholarships to it so check it out soon at:
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The Ethical Slut – Janet W. Hardy
The Big Leap – Gay Hendricks
Have you ever felt alone or confused about your lifestyle, sexuality and the choices you make concerning the two?
It took some effort, and I'm super excited that I finally got to have a conversation with the incredible Dulcinea Pitagora on these topics and more. This brilliant powerhouse specializes in providing support for those who may not be able to relate to, trust, or feel comfortable discussing their alternative lifestyles with just any therapist.
Identifying as kink, queer, gender fluid and a past sex worker herself, Dulcinea can offer clients understanding, trust, and a strong knowledge of many lifestyles. Dulcinea continues to be the voice of the LGTBQ and BDSM communities, founding a variety of projects and creating resources for those seeking a shame free space to express their real selves.
Highly educated in psychology, social work, and human sexuality, Dulcinea Pitagora is also a researcher and well known member of NYC’s BDSM and LGBTQ communities. Running a private practice in Manhattan, Dulcinea is also the founder of ManhattanAlternative.com, a listing of alternative lifestyle affirmative service providers in New York City.
A strong belief in encouraging sex positive education and tolerance has also led Dulcinea to publish several articles, present at conferences and universities, and training.
For more information about Dulcinea and the amazing work happening in NYC and all over, please visit:
Grateful to have Lucia Paxton from episode 27 return with her husband and partner in business, Trevor, discussing their adventure into the world of sensual researchers, conscious sexual community and hour long female orgasms! On this episode you're going to hear from a male perspective, which is something I've been wanting to add more of on the Ignite Intimacy podcast!!
After the birth of their daughter, Lucia struggled with feelings of sadness, body shame and inadequacy. When a female friend of hers called her “Juicy” and invited her to a communication group, it started her on a journey of sexual emancipation, which Trevor quickly joined. Jumping into courses on sensuality and sexuality, they learned that instead of trying to “fix” the things they thought were wrong about themselves, they could instead choose to have fun and live their lives through pleasure.
Wanting to share the concept of finding yourself perfect, and leave a legacy of perfection to their daughter, Lucia and Trevor founded Luscious L.O.V.E Life, where they teach women and couples about the path to pleasure through sensual gratification, pleasurable communication, and a woman’s orgasm.
About Lucia and Trevor:
Together since 1996 and the parents of a 16 year old daughter, Lucia and Trevor live in and run their business out of California.
Lucia, a former Spanish teacher, is an educator, entrepreneur, mother, and artist. She is a researcher of sensuality , communication, intentional living, and Deliberate Orgasm ( female orgasm).
Trevor, a former Silicon Valley techie and general contracter, has dedicated his life to service of the Goddess, and is a dedicated researcher and instructor of female orgasm, having trained in DOing (Deliberate orgasm) and advanced communication practices.
This week on the Ignite Intimacy podcast, my sistar Sarah and I get filled in on all the juicy details of Andrea Barrica’s passion for reproductive justice and the birth of her online shame-free platform for pleasure education, O.School.
Accepting the fluidity of sexuality from an early age, but pushing it aside to focus on her education, Andrea’s path has now brought her to create O.School and look into the future of sex and sex education.
O.School is a judgement free online space to choose your own sex education adventure, with a diverse group of instructors leading courses ranging from communication and consent, to raising sex positive kids, to introduction to kink and fetish. Regardless of physical, cultural, locational, or educational differences, live streaming and live chat provide everyone with an inclusive, safe, and supportive community in which to unlearn shame and live in the desire the way it works for them.
Andrea Barrica is no stranger to business ventures. After co-founding an accounting and tax platform at a very early age, she went on to have a hand in one of the world’s most active global seed funds. Now she combines her technological savvy and “Empathy Warrior” vision to help those who have not yet been lucky enough to embrace their sexuality learn how to open themselves to their own power.
For more information about Andrea, please visit:
Sweet and pungent,
parting the exquisite flesh
as juices moisten her fingers.
In this episode of Ignite Intimacy, Deleonora Abel shares with us her gorgeous and erotic poetry. Not only are her words tantalizing, so is her voice and the way the words come forth from her being.
She is a force, both powerful and soft, divine and adventurous.
Enjoy a new twist for this episode of Ignite Intimacy, Sensual Poetry with Deleonora Abel!
auras collide and
(from ‘La Petite Mort’)
An inspired and imaginative soul, raised being told that creativity should only be a hobby, Australian poet, novelist, and screenwriter Deleonora Abel has only now fully embraced her talent for writing.
Using poetry and writing as a sanctuary during her experiences putting herself through college as a single mother, and taking care of her cancer-stricken mother for the last months of her life, she paints a picture in your mind of every woman’s journey from girlhood to motherhood.
Using a style known as écriture féminine in her work, whose purpose is to return women to writing and express repressed sexual pleasure, Deleonora’s writing is influenced by mythology, occult imagery, and the natural world.
For more information about Deleonora, please visit:
Can religion and sexuality coexist in a harmonious and healthy way? Definitely, according to Bob LaVallee, and he thinks the place to start is the fundamental idea that sex is GOOD!
Bob and I talk about keeping the shame and guilt out, and the holy and sacred in sex through lifelong education, acceptance, and changing our perceptions about this previously taboo subject. We also touch on the concept of toxic masculinity and how society’s expectations are keeping us from truly being ourselves. Experience the freedom that comes with finding a sweet balance on podcast Episode 30 of Ignite Intimacy, Religion and Sex with Bob LaVallee!
About Bob LaVallee:
Buffalo NY yoga teacher and self-described “Jesus-inspired humanist“, Bob LaVallee is a candidate for the Universalist ministry. A Marine Corps veteran, he can also be found working as a chaplain in a hospital cardiac unit.
Bob is a certified facilitator of the Our Whole Lives (OWL) adult sexuality curriculum, a program that has seen many people who have suffered sexual loss experience a resurrection in their faith in God and sexuality. For more information about this program please visit:
Saida Désilets’ journey is one that flowed from erotic innocence, through near-deadly sexual trauma, to healing. Her experiences are a testament to the fact that the right direction is not always the easy one. Despite facing extreme challenges in life, Saida has always chosen to embrace her wounds and use them to lead her on her path of synchronicity and discovery.
Saida’s jade egg practice and research on the psychological aspects of sexuality has helped support and transform tens, perhaps hundreds of thousands, of women around the world, over the course of her career. We learn that there is a massive industry that thrives from our lack of confidence and lack of self knowledge, and how to honor and respect ourselves and our choices while leaning into a sacred sexual space within ourselves and our lives.
Born and raised in various parts of Canada, “Succulence Revolutionary” Saida Désilets now travels the world speaking and sharing her extensive knowledge about women’s relationships with their bodies, minds, and spirits. The world leading expert on the jade egg practice, she has developed her own ‘Désilets Method’ to create “more pleasure, sexual aliveness, and deep self-love” in women.
A published author who is currently writing her latest book on the subject of Desire, Saida loves dancing Cuban salsa with her husband, leading wilderness safaris in Africa, and writing sensual poetry!
Connect with Saida and learn more here:
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Gaby and Raj Sundra are the ultimate proof that a chaotic relationship can be transformed into a magical and amazing bond. In this episode full of energy, love, and laughs, they share their tools for decreasing relationship negativity using the Drama Free Diet and the “magic ratio” that will keep positivity at the forefront of everything you do!
Find out how you can overcome the hurdles in your relationship, stop conflicts before they start, and bring in more intimacy, vulnerability, and most importantly, play!
About Gaby and Raj:
Santa Barbara based coaches and busy owners of two businesses, Gaby and Raj have known their share of relationship chaos. Together for over a decade, they chose to take a unique approach to solving their conflicts and have now formulated a program based in fun to help couples “play” through their problems.
Gaby, an extroverted lifelong learner, holds a Masters degree in Education, Counseling & Guidance. Raj, a go-getting lover of knowledge, holds a Masters degree from Cornell. Together, they help couples “Keep the Fights Clean and the Sex Dirty”!
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The passionate Pleasure Warrioress Lucia Paxton and I expand our pleasure vocabulary and soften our viewpoint of pussies from one of shame and judgement to one of honor and love.
We explore our need to surrender to our womanly pleasure by dispelling the myth of the need for a tight, “perfect” pussy and move to a place of acceptance of our beautiful selves.
Discover the importance of elevating ourselves and others, and the freedom and light that comes from making the choice to apprecialove our universe in a pleasurable way. Celebrate you and all that you are on Episode 27, L.O.V.E. Lighted, Orgasmic, Validated & Evolving!
Lucia Paxton is a Sensuality Instructor and Pleasure Coach who, with her husband Trevor, founded California based Luscious L.O.V.E Life. Together, they teach women and couples about the path to pleasure through sensual gratification, pleasurable communication, and a woman’s orgasm. A lifelong lover of learning, Lucia has 15 years of research in the fields of communication, relationships, sensuality and female orgasm, and has personally experienced over 5,000 hours of female orgasm!
For more information, please visit:
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Did you know that erectile dysfunction is becoming WAY more common in men in their 20s and 30s? Maybe you’ve experienced it yourself already and wondered HOW and WHY??? Well this week’s episode just might have the answers you’re looking for!
Based on an article she wrote in Vice, my guest, Tantrika and writer Dani Katz, and I explore how click-of-a-button access to free porn is creating a whole new generation of men who not only can’t get or maintain an erection, but can’t get or maintain a healthy emotional and physical relationship!
We discuss the effect of the feminine movement on modern men, and how to embody and balance both your female and male energies. And, of course, we talk “Millennial ED” and how you can heal your body, brain, and spirit in Episode 26, Millennial ED is a Thing with Tantrika Dani Katz!
About Dani Katz:
Dani Katz is an published writer of articles in, among others, LA Weekly, Los Angeles Times, Whole Life Times, Swindle, LA Yoga, Santa Fe Reporter, nerve.com and Reality Sandwich. She is also a whimsical artist, tantric practitioner, product developer, and she recently released her book Yes, I Am. Born and raised in LA, this bold and humorous talent continues to work there and is currently developing a television series based on one of her nonfiction essay collections.
Find Dani at:
The Vice article can be read at:
For her new book, Yes I Am:
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